Many of us in our daily lives adapt to the circumstances that are often forced to do so as you want, and be inconvenienced. However, if we go «with the flow» and do nothing, all this will continue. You’re not buying shoes or clothes, makes you feel discomfort? We have to live the same way – to be comfortable.
Try always to Express their dissatisfaction. If something prevented it is not a sin specially to talk about it. Remember that the longer you hesitate to say about the cause of his anxiety, the sharper can be the reaction to your words.
You do not need much to make things you understand – will still be someone unhappy or do not agree with you. In this case, can be very useful to have a saying «all love can not be». That’s OK, because many people, so many opinions. Their motives can politely explain, but it is not justified. It’s not your fault that someone’s view does not coincide with yours.
In our society respect people who Express the idea clearly and logically. It makes you think that a rational explanation makes failure more convincing. But it is not. Do not try to be logical. Too reasonable refusal will be perceived as an excuse, and you as a person, and the consequences can be absolutely unpredictable. Much easier to honestly acknowledge their real feelings and resolutely to refuse unwanted offers without further explanation of details and resentment from the opposite side.
Try to do what is comfortable for you. Remember how many times have you denied yourself something because of embarrassment or unwillingness to deliver the slightest difficulty to others? Asked ever to make the music quieter or not to smoke? Unfortunately, many of us prefer simple request or question discomfort. But answer yourself honestly, you’d be happy to learn that your guest all night dreamed about the liberation of one’s own bladder? Or imagine the feelings of the lecturer in lectures which runs the student every 15 minutes, to sneeze.
Remember a simple rule: the more comfortable we feel, the more pleasure experience surrounding our company.